You deserve the best! But how much do you value it?

You probably have heard these famous quotes like: “you get what you deserve” or “what goes around comes around”.

These are actually quotes that make sense. If you won’t switch on the light at night for instance, you neither can complain about being in the darkness nor blame the people living in shining light houses. And so does it go with our lives.

Now, if this might sound obvious when talking about switching on the light at night, it oddly seems to lose evidence when it comes to one’s life choices. These choices are actually meant to bring us a certain positive change, yet people seem to fear the fact of having to make choices, especially life choices because, of course, they involve a huge complexity of feelings and parameters.

These life choices that cause us the most difficulty.

Actually, the choices involving the necessity to quit something or a situation that has been of a certain help to us, are ones of the hardest to face. I have known a lot of people hesitating in these cases because making the choice to quit for instance, would make them feel ungrateful, especially when there was a sort of mental indebtedness. 

But look now. First of all, depending on the circumstances and on the persons involved in the matter, you won't be indebted to this/them for your lifetime will you? As for the gratefulness, yes, being thankful for what we have not only is important but necessary for the reprogramming of our brain in order to get a certain mindset. But it does not forbid you to point out what goes wrong in a situation and most of all, it doesn't stop you from trying to repair it or to enhance it.   

How much do you value yourself?

Maybe our choices give the best evaluation of how we value ourselves.

Now, getting back to the matter of how self value, our life choices are the ones that give the best indication. And fortunately, they are remediable.

For instance concerning your job; you can be thankful to have one because this allows you to have a certain social utility and to be able to care about your family. Yet, if this job actually belittles you and squashes on your dignity, at this moment of time does the social utility of the job allow it to step on your self-respect?

I am not telling anyone to quit here! I am just opening a subject to mind.  

In the same way, you can be grateful for a relationship, for a husband, a wife, a boy or a girl-friend.  They say than being two is better than being alone. But when this "being-two" leads to abuse, lack of mutual respect or self destruction, does it really worth it?

In a lot of cases, the external opinion weighs a heavier in people's balance than their deepest needs.

What I am saying here is that often the social and external aspect are given more importance than the inner core needs (usually ignored). Why is that? Who on earth ever decided that the outside opinion of some others had any priority on our inner feelings and requirements? 

Of course, we actually need some loving, compassionate and advising external opinions. But this should be done from these people who value us for who we are and not for what we socially look like. Yet these few but important person's opinions are frequently set aside in favour of the majority's opinion...which often does not mean anything.

Now, remember that YOU are important. But if you do not give yourself the importance that you deserve, no one from the outside will ever do it for you. So, unless you learn to give yourself the core value that you (think you) deserve, it is useless to wait it from others, this won't happen. It goes the other way around.

Press this button somwhere in your willingness box... and simply go for life and for wellbeing.

Reevaluate your personal importance.

So today maybe is time for you to re evaluate your personal importance, your professional worth, your social impact, or your place among your family, etc. 

Maybe is it time to ask yourself if this place you have in each one of these contexts is a chosen place or if it is a designated one. Is it the role and importance that you deserve? Or it is the one that society and people decided for you?

Whatever the answers to these questions, YOU can make things change.

You can start to exist for real and for yourself, as an important person.

You can start to make a difference. 

You can start to build today in the real life, this person that you see in your goals. Only because if you saw this person in your goals and dreams, it is because this person can be you. ©

Cornélia ANDRIAMASY RABEMANANJARA

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