Is success without wellbeing still success?

There is a reality behind success that is unfortunately not as promoted as the success effect itself. This leads to a misunderstanding of what success really is. And there is in terms of success, this social pressure which makes people see the success limited to its outside appearance of bling-bling, outrageous wealth or fame.

I actually deeply believe that the success process should be taught at school (like many other fundamentals of life), to allow children to first be familiar very soon to success process and procedures, and second, to allow people to understand all the efforts to be furnished behind the fame and the Forbes ranking related to success. If the outside appearance of success are being widely and savagely promoted through the media, the real success definition today is still confused for many, especially for the age group where it should be explained the most widely, namely the youth.  

The effort process engaged before success still is underway during and after the success achievement:

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Sometimes there is this urgent necessity to remind the efforts to be done before, during AND after getting success. There sometimes is this very tempting way of thinking that  successful person and their offspring actually have the opportunity to the spend the rest of their lives spending money without working. What we need to understand is that success is not meant for a lifetime relaxing purpose. Successful people actually may have an easier access to a wide range of very luxurious cars, houses, food, holidays, etc. and situations. But this doesn’t mean that they will stop working or doing efforts. On the contrary, successful people (the real ones not the rich heirs) tend to work even harder after getting success to extend their wealth, and to become even more tight with money.

Furthermore, when explaining their way to success, successful people usually describe their headway  made of daily little tries and efforts before reaching the top of the podium. Yet remains in the minds of many, the temptation to go through what is often considered as “ success shortcuts” while it is nothing but easy way and simplistic solution... actually what the success is not made of in the real life.

Does success automatically lead to wellbeing?

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But, most of all, there is in the collective sub-conscience this automatic state of happiness and wellbeing related to success. This is partly true. Social success actually is a step of a personal goal that is achieved. But are successful people automatically happy in their everyday life? Do they feel the inner wellbeing that goes with self fulfillment?

Actually they should. Because in the form, they have an easier access to self accomplishment and well being tools (meditation, life coaching, yoga, tai chi, self improvement exercises, etc.), and they somehow can book more time for this.

 Yet, in the substance, it all depends on the success path that is chosen. Because real success implies life choices that match with our inner aspirations.

But what is this is not the case? What if the bling bling, the luxurious cars, the castles, the brand clothes, shoes and bags still do not bring inner peace? And what about these people feeling good in their shoes, in their lifestyle and in their souls, yet unknown, unbank-accounted or unForbesed? Which ones of the two last categories really are in success?

Make your success  lead you to feel happy.

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When success is a pure finality, it rather leads to an inside pressure. The left side of the brain is the one dominating. And since this left side is more related to obligation, duty and reason, the pleasure is less requested. And success without pleasure… is like going to a party with a headache of a bad flux, pretending to be fine.

While, when the success path chosen, the lifestyle and decisions match with our inner aspirations, whatever the outside material appearance, success is there. 

Because, where there is pleasure, there is happiness. And doing things that make you happy, making money out of an activities that are pleasing us, is one of the most thriving way to succeed. As a matter of fact, these are some of the situations that make the two sides of our brains kiss and boom! When this happens, be ready for success because having the both brain hemisphere working together makes our inner machines all active. Everything is in place. The success factory is operational.

Thus, if it is good to be successful it is better to be happy. And I guess, having a rich, plesant and material carefreeb life and being happy is the best way to go beyond the success social pressure. This also is the best way to feel this inner peace and the self-fulfillment required for achieving a real and full success and which anyway, somehow lead to it. ©

 Cornélia ANDRIAMASY RABEMANANJARA

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