The message behind hard times.

As human being, we naturally feel uncomfortable and awkward with the hard moments of our life. And we naturally wish them to end the sooner the better. Yet, while focusing on them (this is what happens when we want things or people to go, we do focus on them) we just make them stay longer.

-         - OK, good to know then but how to make them disappear definitively?

In just analyzing the problem’s origin and context. At what stage of your life were you when the painful or difficult phenomenon occurred? At what precise moment did it land? How did you feel about it? And most of all, what ongoing process did it consciously stop?

-          - Ok fine. That is all interesting but you are not seriously advising to spend some time and energy on the origin of the trouble instead of focusing the energy on  the solutions, are you?

I am. Actually drafting strategies to make the problems definitively disappear is necessary. But it doesn’t stop the problem to occur later on again and again until the final message that you are meant to understand is finally understood.

Not only dwelling on a problem doesn't solve it but it makes it stay even longer.

-          - So, you mean that the problem may be solved with solutions… and yet not solved at all in the long run?  

I am saying: take it the other way around.

What if I told you that the troubles occurring in our lives are nothing but a signal of the other “us” inside?

Now if you have the chance to be parent, this normally is a process that you could understand.

Let me give a close example.

When a baby with limited communication skills, needs to sleep, to have diaper changed, to eat or to drink, he or she uses specific ways to make it understood. The first signal are always soft: an insistent look, a light “Muum” or a succession of brsadewidewidewt which are meant to inform that something is going wrong with His/Her Highness. The coming signals are noisier, and still ignoring them at these moments will only make them even more tonic.

The more you would ignore the signals the more the baby would get angry and fussy. Because the initial issue would have been amplified over time (be it hunger, thirst, soiled diaper, willing to sleep, etc.).

All the Natural Life Process almost look alike.

Now just transpose the same causes and effects to your personal life. Finding a solution to the current problem does not solve its real cause. The “problem” is a “manifestation” of something going wrong in your life (life choices, mindset, etc.). You may solve the apparent part of the iceberg and the deep bottom would still remain and keep on sending more and more amplified signal that are more and more prejudicial to your well being. 

-          - So what should one do to solve the problem both in its external aspect and in its deep bottom aspect?

Simply ask yourself why is this problem occurring to you, why now and what the hidden message is. The answer will not necessarily be immediate. But your brain will find a way to make you understand these things, situations, relations, life professional or personal direction, etc. that need change and/or redirection.

-          - How can you so sure?

Because I tried it before.

-          - And so?

And so when I began to draft some potential reasons to the issues, and when I confirmed it later on, it helped me go through it a little easier (this is knowingly acceptance).

-          - And that’s all?

No. When I understood the message, I progressively changed course in a new direction, actually the ones that inspired me since years. This helped me realize tremendous things I never thought myself able of. Because this was the destination the “problem” was actually leading me to.

So, no matter how odd it may sound or how hard it may look like, just remember that bad times often* are nothing but the negative interpretation of a signal that was initially meant to lead someone to his/her true destination. ©

*often because this is a global case, not a ruthless truth proven in all the cases.

 Cornélia ANDRIAMASY RABEMANANJARA

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