Only
1% of the people in the world is taking risks to achieve his/her life dream.
This
is the result of some recent studies on the matter. I hate this kind of
depressing information. But this is conflictingly the kind of
information that rises my concern. Not only because I am part of a
motivation-mentoring program, but because this is something that in spite of my
go-getter and audacious behavior, I understand for having been at “hesitation-land”
a numerous number of times in my life. And I can tell that when you are
standing-still-stuck once, it gets you a certain time and energy to rise up and
be able to move forward.
Your
reasons for not doing it… actually ARE the reason you should do it.
Now
what happens is that we get weakened by our bad or traumatic life experiences
and by our responsibilities (I do confirm that the youth audacity clearly and
rapidly disappears when you become parent). And this is something
understandable. There will always be more “acceptable” excuses from people
having big family, social or professional responsibilities and from people who
have gone through specific bad experiences for not taking risks in life. And
you may add to the weakening list a thousand other reasons for not going ahead
with one’s goals, like the fact of
getting older, waiting for the right moment, having more funds, etc.
Whatever
may be your life project (a business to launch, to develop, a passion that you
want to live, a family to build, bringing your soul to higher grounds, etc.),
you have your deep personal reasons to do it, but also your reasons for not
doing it.
Now,
you can make the following exercise in listing not each of the deep reasons for
which you want it (because this is already very clear in your head as mid and
long term objectives), but the reasons
for not doing it. And transform them into reason for doing it. Keep in your
mind all the way that issues are nothing
but objectives to achieve.
Hereunder
are some eventual reasons that are essentially linked to the fact of starting
one’s own business, but you could apply it to any other situation.
Family
reasons:
- - "I can’t pawn my family and my responsibilities
only in order to fulfill my dreams", turns into: "My family responsibilities and
our collective future is the reason for which I decide to jump ahead with my
projects. I want my life to be my children’s example, they are the reasons for
which I need my projects to exist, to develop and to succeed".
- - "I have accrued monthly charges that I
need to consider for the moment" => "My current accrued charges are the
reasons for which I need to move faster, forward and in a stronger way".
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| Take your passion, make it happen! You're jumping for your life! |
Bad
experiences:
- - "Some experiences have really badly
ended in the past and this is not something I wish to reproduce" => "I need my
past experience to allow and to prove myself that I am able to go ahead with
the lessons that I have learnt from my past".
Time:
- - "I do not have any time to spare for
my project at the moment" => "My
current lack of time IS the reason for which I need to try it for myself, in
order to get all the time I require for myself in the future".
Age:
- - "I am too old for this now" => "The
time I have left before me now IS the reason for which I want to jump in, in
order to tell myself that at least, I have done it".
Money:
- - "I need funding to start this project
of mine because I am financially short at the moment" => "My current lack of
funding IS the reason I need to go forward and allow myself to make a living
out of my activities and develop enough incomes to stop with the lack of money".
Opportunity:
- - "I am waiting for a good opportunity
to start doing the things that I plan to do" => "My project IS the opportunity
to begin, and with it will come some other ones".
Etc.
You
may consider it as a way too simplistic but when you go down deep in it, you
will realize that it is not.
Not
doing things we are called to d bring serious effects in the long run.
Have
you ever gotten this feeling of looking back in time and thinking about the
things that you should have done then and which you still haven't realized yet? Didn’t
you ever tell yourself at least once that “if you had done it then, the impacts
would have been less serious today”?
Things
that you are meant to do at a certain moment, and that you still don’t look at are like a crack in
your wall. When finding excuses for not repairing it (for material reasons,
time, lack of resources or for whatsoever reason), you only give the crack time
to go deeper and wider. I talked about a crack in the wall, but it could either
be a tooth decay that you constantly postpone to bring to the dentist, a
relation that you don’t allow yourself to get rid of, a baby or family that you
don’t dare to build, etc.
Things
that are meant to be done should be done in the given time for a reason. Passed
a certain delay, the non-realization of certain things causes more and more
important and serious impacts.
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| The first try is the hardest but it leads to so capital achievements! |
The
main point is not about “Why we do not jump in”, but about “How we CAN jump
in”.
Now,
we usually spend a lot of time explaining our human reasons for not doing
something. While actually we should focus more on HOW we can do it.
Ok,
there are there numerous reasons that get our energy weaker on the way. And
there is this famous myth about how human beings fear the unknown. This is
somewhat of ridiculous. It is like saying that human beings were not made for
taking risks in life because their core nature is to fear the unknown. Allow me
to wrong this myth of the human fearfulness! My deep conviction is that the human nature IS daring and that everyone
was born courageous.
The
biggest proof of this is our first life experience. If the human nature wasn’t
destined to take risks, to try and to win, there wouldn’t have been this
spermatozoid race at the outset, this historic great transition of our lives
-from the warmth of a loving belly to the cold ambient air of a so called
unfriendly world.
And
when you consider that (be it for humans or for animals) every little step of
our lives requires taking a certain risk: learning to walk as a baby, teaching
our own children to do so, passing exams, smiling at someone we do not know,
etc., there should be no logical reason to the statement that the human nature
is not acquainted to risk taking.
Therefore,
whatever your life experiences, do not
allow people’s opinion, myths or data to stop you from reaching your goal!
You
may have fallen down once, twice or several times. But you also have achieved a millions others things besides! The way
you did it then, is way you will make it out again now, one step after another.
The first one will be the hardest but
it will be supported by your enriched experience of the past and by your firm
conviction that this first step that you make leads you to this best part of
your life.
Try it for yourself! Do not miss this precious rendez-vous with yourself! ©
Make It Happen!Mada
Personal & professional motivation-mentoring
program.
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