What makes one attractive or not.
I have always wondered since I was a child what
parameters could make people decide that someone was cute or ugly. With time
going, I have noticed that often the pretended beauty or the ugliness of a
person was more related to external factors like the way of clothing or the
choice of a hair dressing rather than to the shape of the face itself.
Children’s way of seeing things is still dictated by
the pureness of their souls so, as a many other children, I never understood how
external factors could make the beauty or the ugliness of a person (I confess
that I still don’t though this may not be related to the pureness of my soul anymore
but rather to the lack of common sense of this way of thinking).
Now, when growing up as an adolescent, with my soul
been already altered by the world’s artificial values, I have heard something
even more awkward from adults, and which sounded like: “your beauty comes from
the inside”. ??!! Excuse me?? I mean, how on earth could Paul, Mark, Rebecca or
Mathilda (factious names, I do not know any of these persons) who genetically and
obviously are unappealing could, by their inner values, suddenly look pretty or
handsome? This looked for me as without sense as the external factors of
beauty.
I also always have tried to understand why and how
could one be unsightly and another one so pleasant to look at. I mean, there certainly WAS a non-genetic factor
playing in this!
I have noticed, and maybe you will too, that this was
nothing about the clothing, the hairdressing or the beard that you wear. And
most of all (which is a relief for me actually since I may not consider myself as
ugly but I am definitely not pretty either), this also not a question of shape of the face. Ouf!!
And finally, as and when of my questions, observations
and life lessons, I understood! Actually,
our life stories do make us unsightly or beautiful. And most of all, no matter
how this might sound awkward or not, LOVE does make a person beautiful. I mean by love, the love
given by the people around us, but also the one that we give ourselves.
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| Love is what feed our souls, and hearts and also what shapes our faces and our glaze. |
Love is all!
And this is what it is all about!
Our Eyes bring in their glazes, our life story, which according
to the cases make us unpleasant to look at or cute looking.
Have you ever seen people looking so tired that they
almost looked like junkies? Or have you ever seen people so sure of themselves
that they immediately looked so nice regardless of how disproportionate
they face may be?
Have you never had this odd impression of cold energy
when looking at people in a great mental distress with this sort of unmitigated
look? And then realizing after hearing their stories that this was what you felt
in their eyes?
Haven’t you ever felt this sort of contagious unconscious
dynamism when looking at someone walking or smiling with great energy?
This is the same process happening with our life stories reflecting in our eyes. Well, I am talking about the eyes while actually it rather is about the eyes AND this general perception of yourself that you give when looking at people, walking, talking, doing things, etc.
But here is the surprising thing. In most cases (I
said in most cases!), sufferance and lack of love or the both of them, actually
make people unattractive. How could I even dare to say this? Well, just look.
And tell me. Try to dig into people’s story, into people’s life. I can’t name
them in respect to their intimacy, but you could even try to dig into the
celebrities pictures and see how their beauty has evolved with time (or not according
to the case). And make the comparison with the mental and spiritual health they
were in at each stage of the photo.
The fact is that when you reach a certain point -not
even of awareness- but just of a general satisfaction or inner well-being, YOUR
ENTIRE BODY lives it as well, beginning with your eyes.
On the other side, I have seen a lot of adopted people
in my life as well as in some reportings, and I find them particularly
beautiful! Most of the adopted children benefit from a tremendous love from
their adoptive parents, and this is what gives them this sort of indescribable
charm. The warmth of their adoptive parent’s love softly shaped something in
their whole being, and most of all in their face and in their eyes.
And I have unfortunately seen as well in my
surroundings, unwanted babies. Now, as babies they all have this innocence, purity
and pure aura that will for all times make them beautiful. But the fact
unfortunately is that, unloved babies often (I said often!) will not have this
fluid featured face that desired babies have. There will always be this little
something that will make an aware person feel that Baby lacked the basic love
and desire that he or she deserves at the outset of his/her life.
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| Our eyes reflect non only our souls but also our hopes. |
Facial features CAN change!
In my country there is this quote about how you can’t
change an ugly face but you can change a bad behavior. Well, you know what?
Life is made of permanent evolving cycles. The entire Natural Life Process IS
EVOLUTION. Therefore, in respect to this, be convinced that ABSOLUTELY EVERYTHING
on earth can actually change. The continents did, the human nature and the
living beings did, the climate did, and so did our brains!
Thus, regardless of the real existence or not of the
law of evolution, things actually DO change. They initially told us that our neurons
could never regenerate, until we finally found out that they could! They taught
us that mature teeth could not grow anymore after an extraction…and yet more
and more experiences show that this actually IS possible. The only thing that
hasn’t been scientifically done as a positive experience is growing in height
at the maturity. But I wouldn’t be surprised to hear one day about the
possibility of the human growth process at maturity.
As a matter of fact, in this regard, our beauty -not
the inner one but the external physical aspect- also CAN change. And I am
certain that we all have seen at least once, someone initially unattractive
becoming pleasant to look at (without using esthetical surgery) with time, maturity
or with one of the three following factors that makes the eyes and glaze just gives
a sort of charm to someone, making one so attractive and in some major cases,
making one’s face just pleasant to look at.
1- Innocence and purity: these two factors actually make the eyes look so clean and wide open
nearly all the time, like if they were constantly in the admiration of
something or asking a question, or simply believing everything as gospel truth.
And actually, these people do have a little of naïve and ingenious heart. You
see this when looking at babies, children, or looking at these other adult people
so kind and trustful that their only eyes look like a rare jewel stone.
2- Great mental energy: as if they were permanently preparing
for a battle. Their eyes usually transmit as much energy as a big waterfall and
they are themselves like in a never ending important film casting. They may be
children, students or adults, … but they have one thing in common: they possess
or have developed a certain willingness. And this is so present in them that it
contagiously inspires envy and admiration. They have this “hero” look, you know
this somewhat of a Paul Newman’s glaze? It makes them look so terribly
attractive whatever their height, weight, color or face shape. You just feel so
fascinated by them without you being able to explain why.
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| Legend: nothing. Just Paul Newman's glance that says "I will acheive it whatever may"! |
I have often seen this
look in a lot of entrepreneur’s eyes, sportsmen and outsiders (these people no
one would ever put a bet on because they are just coming out of nowhere,
absolutely unknown and unexpected). And I have noticed that when you go
through a period of your life that puts all of your senses and energy at the highest
because you are preparing to face and to conquer something important, you
automatically get this look in your eyes. And so I understood that these eyes and glazes were actually the
ones of the Winners.
3- Self realization: I often have noticed this special glaze in a majority of people practicing
Taichi, yoga, Qi Gong, jogging, etc. I
have also seen it most of the times in people having reached a certain level of
awareness. But, as far as I recall, I have always seen this look
in the eyes of people possessing a certain wisdom, a generous heart and gentleness. I have also seen in in the eyes of them who have realized themselves as part of the humanity, and in the eyes of those who simply have realized their life mission.
Their eyes are often like a quiet lake, like a
story book telling us about these several storms they went through in their lives
and which now are totally over. We feel in these eyes the same happiness that
we felt when reminding us those good moments of our childhood. Their smiles are
as comforting as a tender loving parent cuddling our head in time of distress. The
tune of their voice and their flow is like a sweet hot towel enrobing us after
coming out of the swimming pool.
These people have done their part and their eyes clearly show it. Yet they will keep on doing even more than what is
expected from them because they have made of generosity their second nature.
These eyes are not expecting anything from anyone anymore and their owners do not
have anything to take from anyone anymore because EVERY THING that
they need is INSIDE THEM! Instead, these eyes reflect a certain willingness to
share with anyone they can, a part of their experience, lessons, time and love.
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| And in some other times, some eyes just share our struggles and littles victories over life. |
These are the eyes of them who have run
their races, fought their battles and who have overcome in the highest dignity, all
of their past and worst demons. I concluded that these were the eyes of inner peace, self accomplishment, love and
wisdom.
Now, no matter how close of far your glaze may be from
the one of Paul Newman, Mandela or babies, just know that you can make yourself
even more pleasant looking than what you already are. And this is not only a question
of charm but it is a matter of real regenerating feature of your face through
the way you feed and soul and lead your life.
This being said, know that you ARE lovable and thus
anyway, always beautiful! ©
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