Only compete with the best. Less is not an option!

When we begin to start something, be it a project, a business or anything else, our first results often tend to be discouraging. This is absolutely normal. Stand firm and keep going. Beginnings are hard for a good reason. They are meant to develop our tenacity, our inner heat and energy.

On the way, we also see some other similar business or projects that seem to be developed more than ours. This is also normal and it will always happen in a way or another so better be ready to face it.

And, depending on the efforts and energy that you are ready to give to your business or project, there will come a time when your own progress and performance will also create admiration.

But instead of looking at how far OTHER projects, people or business are progressing, the point is rather about how far:

 1-    YOU have gone compared to your former performance;

 2-  you currently are compared to the best ones in your sector.

Then fill in the gap by regular and little efforts.

These are the only two comparisons in life that won’t bring you down. Instead, they will push you to more performance and to more productivity.

Comparing yourself with people around you will only slow you down.

Actually, I guess that there is no need to remind the dangerous aspect of comparing oneself to someone else, or comparing one’s situation to another one. Not only is this stupid because each one’s reality in life is different and this is available for each one’s needs, aims, means, purpose, destination, etc., but most of all, this is INSANE.

Comparison is the fastest way to depression, to self-depreciation, to a grey-attitude and to permanent negative feelings.

Comparing your life to others is the proof that your need to build up more solid concrete walls inside you. Permanently looking at how people build their houses will not make you build yours faster. And there has never ever has any runner in this world who won a victory while looking at the competitors around him.

BUT. The human beings although need a certain sane comparison, a healthy competition that gives the required energy, wings and willingness to reach a certain given goal.  I am talking here about sane references to serve as model, as a guide, the one that children use to grow and to learn how to behave as future adults for instance. This not only is important for your self-construction, but it also is a sort of monitoring GPS indicating your current situation and the way which is left to reach your final destination.

 

Whenever you are tempted to see their grass greener remember to make yours look like an art work landscape .

The external model only serves to build your inner one.

In this purpose, we all need models to pull us up and to give us the desire to push our limits to their edge.

But then comes a time when this reference to a model MUST cease and should give place to independence. At a certain period of time, when you have shaped enough your own model of functioning, of business model, of success process, etc., you need to give it its own way and to make it correspond to what you mean it to.

When your inner model is customized, you do not need an external one anymore. This is when you leave the driving license school for instance, and learn to drive in town by your own without your driving instructor.

Competing with your best past performances develops the right mindset, the one leading to success.

First because, as you know it, you learn from your experiences and with time going, you come to master more a process that you have experienced several times. This also contributes to develop your self-confidence since it is an excellent way of getting to know more about yourself, in understanding where you are better at and what requires more efforts.

As a metter of fact, comparing to your last performance is a regular self-monitoring process pushing you to develop your efforts and to entertain a higher sense of self expectation and rigor.

In other words, comparing to your past performances is pushing you to develop to a real champion mindset.

Success is a process. Learn it from the best.

Since if you need an outside model in life, better chose the best one of all.

In doing so, you tell your brain that this higher model or reference that you chose is the one you allow yourself to become. This is why you should absolutely stop referring or comparing yourself to the average. Excellency doesn’t talk, discuss, think or compare to the average. Remind yourself everyday whatever happens, that whatever may be your current situation or progress, average is not where you belong. Let others deal with it, refer to it, talk about it, admire it, chat, play or have lunch with it. But this is not where you belong. Be aware of the fact though, that often the mediocrity shows off under an excellent appearance and pretends to be Excellency. But when you scratch it smoothly, it appears to be nothing but mediocrity.  Mediocrity never deals with risks, efforts, higher grounds or high mindedness. It only is outside appearance and easy stakes.

Also know that mediocrity hates seeing higher goals and loves pulling people to lower mindsets. Thus, you may on the way be mocked for the models that you have chosen or for the level of your personal challenges.  Avoiding mediocrity is also being dull to its laugh and mockery.  Remember that a majority of people considered as universal success references have suffered and survived mockery.

Now, keep your eyes wide opened and your mental high, open your heart to the limitless field of possibilities, and try to feed your soul always. Hold on! Things are on their way! ©

Cornélia ANDRIAMASY RABEMANANJARA

Make It Happen!Mada

Personal & professional motivation-mentoring program.

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