Simply reach this best parts of your life.

I have a personal theory about what can make a billion things better in this world, including economic growth, well being, health, etc.

I admit that it may sound somewhat of a romantic, empty-sensed and simplistic point of view. But it actually has a lot of sense. As I also accept that this theory may be wronged by the thousands other parameters entering into consideration for each aspect of our life. But actually, all of these outside parameters are closely linked to this single precious and important thing I am talking about.

The origin of all sorts of disturbances.

Now, when following the Mathematical Rules of Life, what you normally have you do not need to snatch it from someone else. Except if you are greedy or selfish would you answer.  But when deconstructing this, you realize that the origin of selfishness is nothing but the fear of missing. If a selfish person gets the insurance to never ever lack of what he is running after, I guess he would accept to relax, behave and see things differently.

If anyone anyway, had the guarantee that what we are looking for will be ours whatever may, provided a certain worthy attitude, a million things on earth would have turned out differently.

When you try to understand the origin of all the instability and conflicts in the world (or in our personal and professional context), you realize that this just is due to all sort of shortcomings and twisted mindsets. A majority of people used to attribute this to selfishness. This is partly right.

But how would you solve selfishness issues (and with it all the other shortcomings issues like cheating, lying, killing, opportunism, greediness, etc.). How would you explain it? 

Every little obstacle that you have cleared is another Victory that feeds your self confidence.

When you go through it, at the end of the deconstruction process, you come to the conclusion that the cheaters, burglars, opportunists, … did what they did because they thought this act would do them good in terms of release, pleasure or satisfaction at the end (which of course is never the case in the run of since what goes around comes around in respect to the Natural Life Process). This thing they are looking for is what they actually lack at the moment.

What is this so important thing? 

While one might be tempted to give material reasons to all of this, the fact is that the very thing lacking actually has nothing to do with material. It all is about LOVE. To say it even more clearly, it all is about SELF-LOVE.

In my country we have a saying: the water of a full bucket neither swings nor makes as much noise as much as when the water of an half-full bucket . In other words, the more you have inside yourself, the less you need to show off and to do these things that make you compensate this emptiness inside.

When we first came into this world, we were (supposed to be) filled with the love of our parents. This love was meant to feed our own self-love and allow our construction. I will not discuss about these things on our life way that contribute to develop or to lessen our self-love quota. But the fact is that we are supposed to develop enough self-love to be able to go forward in life with serenity. 

Because when we lack self-love, we lack self-confidence, self-esteem and self-respect. Because of all of this, or/and from all of this, we lack self-acknowledgement. You easily understand that this self-incapacity and self-ignorance is the one that we project on others. There is little possibility of real love, confidence and esteem from someone who doesn’t have this for him or herself. From this, is it also easier to understand all of the shortcomings you can imagine. 

Self-love and self-esteem can make a million things better in this world.

 

The lack of these inner basic tools that allows one to build our lives by our own and to reach the success that we deserve, leads to different sorts of unacceptable mindsets and behaviors.

 Someone lacking self-love will always grasp more and more what he can from others, be it time, money, attention, friends, husband, wife, etc. Just like our body stocks all the food it can, after a period of severe diet, “just in case”. People lacking self-love lack self-confidence and thus are not likely to believe that they can achieve success on their own. They will thus achieve it at the expense of others. And that is how it all begins.

Everything IS possible.

Because Nature makes everything possible, you understand that learning to get back to a positive self-appreciation process is not only possible but recommended.

We do not give it much importance, yet the best of our lives mainly remains on our capacity of loving ourselves and believing in us. 

When you know yourself, you get to appreciate and trust yourself. And when this happens, you know that whatever may, you have done it before and you still can do it again. You come to develop a construction mindset that makes you more confident in the future knowing that this future depends on YOU and on your efforts.

And from that situation, absolutely everything that you dream of becomes possible. ©

Cornélia ANDRIAMASY RABEMANANJARA

Make It Happen!Mada

Personal & professional motivation-mentorship.

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