This may already sound obvious for
some, but it may not necessarily be the case for a majority of us. Often, words
and quotes like “growing up inside”, “opening to oneself”, “developing self-consciousness”
or “it needs to come from you”, may sound beautiful and full of wisdom when we hear
them, but we do not necessarily clearly get their deep meaning. And there are a
thousand other similar words, situations and advises that only make sense when
we have gone through situations and changes that give them all their meaning.
In this same purpose, you may give
people a million advises about how to bring positive change in their lives,
about how to succeed one’s life, or about how to reach a certain success, and
send then a thousand email every week about it, it will have no particular
effect unless it meets a curiosity for the matter, an increased interest for
the subject, a phase of observation, a self questioning period, a desire to
try… of course, this kind of guidance will
never be useless because the words and advises given will anyway have made
their ways to the a part of the brain, but it will require a more accurate period
of time.
This actually is an inner process of
self-evolution (or self-development) which takes time, energy and most of all
which takes a serious willingness for change. It thus needs to come from the inside
for many reasons, but here are three most obvious ones.
- It works out only when it comes from the inside.
- When it comes from the inside, you know better what you are talking about.
- Outside interventions have a cost.
When we initiate our own change, there is a sort of chemical reaction preparing our entire being to this change that we are looking for. |
1. It works out only when it comes from
the inside.
The Natural Life Process is made out
of common sense. And it has given human beings the ability to ask for some
questions and the same ability to bring it the accurate answer and solutions.
For instance, if you do not feel hungry,
you will not see the necessity of feeding yourself no matter how loud or how often
people would tell you to. Only you can measure the importance of your need, your
capacity, and only you are able to satisfy yourself your own needs regardless
of what others do, think or say. Your Needs, Your Means, Your Solutions, Your Rhythm
and at Your own Level!
What happens is that though we don’t
realize it, or though we can’t not name it precisely, there actually are some permanent ongoing reactions in our body, minds
and souls.
When we are we initiate the change
we are looking for, the process is “natural” and thus, more efficient. There is
a sort of chemical reaction inside us that prepares us to it. Just like when
our salivary glands condition our mouth to eat lemon when we see one.
When we realize the need of change in our lives, and when consciously
ask for it, there are some energy gates opening inside us, allowing the energy
to flow and to proceed with the physical, emotional and spiritual
transformation required.
2. When it comes from the inside, you know better what you are talking about.
I know a lot of people talking with
sounding words about life, change, inner change, self achievement, etc. in impressive
ways. And yet their entire life and mindset seem in complete contradiction with
what they say. This contradiction is felt in a way or another and it kills credibility.
Whatever you background or your expertise, people will trust you when they feel
that you know what you are talking about, and they won’t if your only knowledge
of the subject are some quotes or words overheard somewhere.
Remember how comforting it is to
discuss with someone who had faced the same situation that we are in.
Furthermore when you go through
inner transformations that you have called for, you are not just quoting people
or repeating some phrases, you are able to answer any question about the transformation
process, you are in a position to value your experience.
We have everything perfectly organized inside us: questions but also answers and solutions. |
3. Outside interventions have a cost.
Remember that outside interventions always
have a cost, and I am not necessarily talking about money. But whatever is
required from the outside when you can do it with your own means, will sooner
or later fall back on you.
Now, I agree that we do not all have
the capacity to re-design a house or to re-design our inner organization, mindset
and habits on our own. That is where we all do need a little help sometimes.
But the fact is that when you are waiting for “things to occur” instead
of leading yourself the required changes in your life, then these outside “things”
WILL happen, but you will have to pay its cost.
I remember how hard and how long I
wished to have the opportunity to run my own business and to do something that
would really thrill me out in an extraordinary way. But -as it is often the
case for a majority of people-, the mental laziness took it over for some times,
making me find a billion excuses for not proceeding to the change that I was
looking for. I wanted a change but I wasn’t really ready to push it on my own.
I wanted “things and circumstances” to give me a kick or to do it for me. Believe
me, they DID! And in a rather hard way! I told myself that I have not been
looking for the right opportunities and solutions hard enough, or maybe have I
just been dumb to the signs that Life sent me. But the fact is that I finally
found out the change I looked for, ONLY after Life had shaken me up in a rather
tough way.
It is not just a myth or a quote, it
is a reality: the answers to our questions actually all are inside us.
The Natural Life Process is such
that the questions, desires, wishes that we emit with sincerity, authenticity
and curiosity, HAVE their immediate answers and solutions inside us. The way we
have our own genes, we have our own life questions, and our own answers to it. The fact is that we often have questions,
wishes, desires, but we always expect others to give it answers and
satisfaction instead of trying to answer it or to find it out by our own. We
undervalue our real inner capacities and in doing so, we do not give ourselves
the opportunity to make things work out naturally (means extraordinarily). Because
this Natural Life Process is like a giant universal machine that never leaves a
command unexecuted. But unlike machines, when the execution is not given
consideration, you receive a reminder over and over again, and it becomes more
and more intense over time… until it becomes unbearable.
I admit that the rude period of my
life rather brought me some good results that I can be proud of, and I believe
that the best things in our lives actually happen after the toughest ones.
But I wouldn’t call for such hard
times though. And I would suggest you not wait for it either.
There always are some ways to manage
situations differently and to get good results in the softest ways. The first one
is when we make the change come from the inside. Its helps us understand the
life’s lessons by our own without facing the hard side of it. ©
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It Happen!Mada
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Thanks for sharing your thoughtful insight
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