There are about destiny so many
opinions and beliefs that discussing over it sometimes causes as much conflicts
as discussing over politics or religion. The fact is that our beliefs about it
shape our whole mindset and behavior and this finally impacts on our way of
living, on our social and emotional interactions, and last, on our … destiny. I
have known a lot a people in my surroundings working as hard as the cattle in
the fields, yet gaining nothing from their hard labor and getting a life of
misery.
And for knowing them, I can attest
that they really were deserving individuals, probably more deserving that any
other people I knew, they were brilliant, with a certain genius and a generous
heart. These persons were very close and dear to me so this had always been
something affecting me to the most.
From this I understood two crucial
things:
1- Whatever your brightness, your real competence or your true worth, negative
beliefs will just sink them all deep and this will be nothing but a huge waste of
potential.
2- Working for a living is a good thing. It allows developing some basic core values
like effort and like respecting Life and the job that you have. But unless there is a little bit of passion
and pleasure in it, with a little bit of curiosity about oneself and one’s
potential, this is a soft life killer; not in terms of physical Life, but in
terms of inner life, the one that we have in our eyes and smiles when we love
our life.
This, by the way, is the reason for
which we are called to invest in personal projects the same way we should
invest in ourselves. And since surviving in this world is now closely related
to money (which is nothing but a new game rule to take into consideration), as
long as we have the possibility to do it, people should develop apart from their
regular work (I am talking about salaried not Entrepreneurs) something for their
living which only depends on them and on which gets them passionate.
What does the quite “things happen
for a reason” really mean?
These situations have made me eager
to understand how destiny really worked. Since coming from an official “Christian”
country, I have been told during all my childhood that destiny was a ready-made
path, drawn by an Almighty God who had decided it for you and that going astray
from this predestined path was at the limit ridiculous and dangerous. This doesn’t
really help to make oneself a positive opinion about this Supreme power.
When growing up, as and when of my researches
and inquiries, I heard and read some even more surprising truth about destiny, which
stated that one’s destiny was what we decided it to be and not something we
were to follow whether we accepted it or not. And I have read hundred of
coaches even surfing on a global ignorance and naivety on the matter, to make
themselves a generous living out of it, sometimes with ridiculous process and
affirmations. This didn’t help further to understand the way destiny really
worked.
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| The real truth about destiny actually is the conviction we deeply feel connected with. Credit image: Pixabay. |
Today, with life going, I found out that
the real truth about destiny is actually based on the fact that each one of us has
her/his own truth as long as s/he feels in compliance with what /he believes. And
this is when each part piece of our puzzle is at the right place. But is everyone’s
truth is based on each life experience, it also considers a little bit of people’s
own truth, thus the truth about life and destiny is nothing but the way we
shaped it ourselves with a little bit of the way others shaped theirs.
But the mystery remains unsolved about
what destiny globally is. Well, a billion quotes and thoughts and studies as
well as a global perception and acceptance tend to show a common knowledge:
things always happen for a reason. But this quote could either mean that destiny
is pre-written or that it isn’t.
Well I guess there isn’t one sole
truth about this either. There is about destiny a little bit of pre-written
part and a majority of to-be-written part. Because for certain, everything
happens for a reason, and this includes our earthly existence. And both the
pre-written and the to-be-written parts are about cycles and human interaction.
Free choice is the evidence that
destiny can’t only be pre-written.
The pre-written part concerns our
contribution to something in two main fields, 1) in people’s life and 2) in our
own lives, regardless of the way we do it (in a positive or negative way) and of
the time we are meant to it.
We could say that the pre-written
part it is about this inner work on ourselves which is destined to identify
which piece of the puzzle we actually are, our utility/mission. While the to-be-written one is about
how to get our piece of the puzzle in its right place. Whatever the way, the
time it takes or the energy it requires, as
long as we get to this right place we are meant to reach, we can consider that
we have emotionally, mentally and materially succeeded our life. And the rest is just about enhancing this place
is making it as livable as possible, and our piece of the puzzle in making is
as bright as possible. This happens when living each moment at its fullest with our hole being, mind, body and soul. This is
what gives this impression of “feels like home” whenever we begin to understand
or to get closer to this “home place” of the puzzle.
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| The price of security will always be higher than the price of stepping in. Credit image: Pixabay. |
Now, concerning the non-removability
of the destiny process, there is one thing to understand. We all have been
given the free choice of doing things that we consider necessary, the capacity to
think and to hold the beliefs we deem right, and the ability to become the
person we allow ourselves to become. And this is normally enough to prove that
our life’s path can’t just be pre-written. I mean, a free-will concept does obviously
not stick with this concept of “our destiny was written far before we existed”.
Our free will is the indication that we can change our direction as often as we
judge it necessary. Hence, no matter how strong our beliefs or how long we have
been in a certain situation or relationship (considered as irremovable), as
humans we have been given the most luxurious gift ever: the capacity to decide
the direction we want our live to take. I am not saying that it is easy or
funky and that there will neither be failure nor pain in deciding to lead a
life the way it is meant to. But just as for deliveries, the hardest is always
at the outset. Then only come pleasure and satisfaction. But the thing is, there
always is a price to pay for any choice we make in life, and even (most of all)
for the choices that we do not make). Because the price of security is and will always be much higher than the price of stepping in. Be it in terms of physical or mental health, in terms
of happiness and satisfaction, choosing to write our life story brings a high
value added. While, the same way non-valuated spares create poverty, non
valuated destiny path creates an inner death and a life-lasting inutility. And the
majority’s decision to choose the path of security (of which mediocrity is made
of) never meant that this WAS the right norm. Because one thing is for sure, in
terms of personal life achievement, there neither is norm nor standard at all.
Thus these later can be moved, changed or canceled.
Now, depending on the stakes of your
personal projects and on the way you manage things out, you could even have (or
ask for) the cool process, the one with the best new start conditions.
As long as you are alive, there are chances to make things happen.
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| As long as we are alive, there are chances to makes things happen. Credit image. |
On my part, I have understood my
personal impact on my own destiny when I finally did in the greatest way, these
things they always have thought or told me I was unable of. I understood how
good or bad words, situations, attitudes, could only push you forward as long
as you accept and realize that this is nothing but a part of the giant game you
are playing in. People and situations are only checkers on the chess board you
need to deal with. And no one or nothing is to be taken personally because each
one of them is meant to lead us to our personal achievement (more easily said
than done by the way).
There is nothing set in the stone that
you can’t change. Whatever they may tell you about your incapacity, your lack
of knowledge, you poor means, whatever your current position, possessions,
situation… as long as you are alive, there is a chance for things to happen.
Money, just like brain, health,
soul or anything else, need to be valued at their highest worth. And so are life and
destiny. ©
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