Simply reach this best parts of your life.

I have a personal theory about what can make a billion things better in this world, including economic growth, well being, health, etc.

I admit that it may sound somewhat of a romantic, empty-sensed and simplistic point of view. But it actually has a lot of sense. As I also accept that this theory may be wronged by the thousands other parameters entering into consideration for each aspect of our life. But actually, all of these outside parameters are closely linked to this single precious and important thing I am talking about.

The origin of all sorts of disturbances.

Now, when following the Mathematical Rules of Life, what you normally have you do not need to snatch it from someone else. Except if you are greedy or selfish would you answer.  But when deconstructing this, you realize that the origin of selfishness is nothing but the fear of missing. If a selfish person gets the insurance to never ever lack of what he is running after, I guess he would accept to relax, behave and see things differently.

If anyone anyway, had the guarantee that what we are looking for will be ours whatever may, provided a certain worthy attitude, a million things on earth would have turned out differently.

When you try to understand the origin of all the instability and conflicts in the world (or in our personal and professional context), you realize that this just is due to all sort of shortcomings and twisted mindsets. A majority of people used to attribute this to selfishness. This is partly right.

But how would you solve selfishness issues (and with it all the other shortcomings issues like cheating, lying, killing, opportunism, greediness, etc.). How would you explain it? 

Every little obstacle that you have cleared is another Victory that feeds your self confidence.

When you go through it, at the end of the deconstruction process, you come to the conclusion that the cheaters, burglars, opportunists, … did what they did because they thought this act would do them good in terms of release, pleasure or satisfaction at the end (which of course is never the case in the run of since what goes around comes around in respect to the Natural Life Process). This thing they are looking for is what they actually lack at the moment.

What is this so important thing? 

While one might be tempted to give material reasons to all of this, the fact is that the very thing lacking actually has nothing to do with material. It all is about LOVE. To say it even more clearly, it all is about SELF-LOVE.

In my country we have a saying: the water of a full bucket neither swings nor makes as much noise as much as when the water of an half-full bucket . In other words, the more you have inside yourself, the less you need to show off and to do these things that make you compensate this emptiness inside.

When we first came into this world, we were (supposed to be) filled with the love of our parents. This love was meant to feed our own self-love and allow our construction. I will not discuss about these things on our life way that contribute to develop or to lessen our self-love quota. But the fact is that we are supposed to develop enough self-love to be able to go forward in life with serenity. 

Because when we lack self-love, we lack self-confidence, self-esteem and self-respect. Because of all of this, or/and from all of this, we lack self-acknowledgement. You easily understand that this self-incapacity and self-ignorance is the one that we project on others. There is little possibility of real love, confidence and esteem from someone who doesn’t have this for him or herself. From this, is it also easier to understand all of the shortcomings you can imagine. 

Self-love and self-esteem can make a million things better in this world.

 

The lack of these inner basic tools that allows one to build our lives by our own and to reach the success that we deserve, leads to different sorts of unacceptable mindsets and behaviors.

 Someone lacking self-love will always grasp more and more what he can from others, be it time, money, attention, friends, husband, wife, etc. Just like our body stocks all the food it can, after a period of severe diet, “just in case”. People lacking self-love lack self-confidence and thus are not likely to believe that they can achieve success on their own. They will thus achieve it at the expense of others. And that is how it all begins.

Everything IS possible.

Because Nature makes everything possible, you understand that learning to get back to a positive self-appreciation process is not only possible but recommended.

We do not give it much importance, yet the best of our lives mainly remains on our capacity of loving ourselves and believing in us. 

When you know yourself, you get to appreciate and trust yourself. And when this happens, you know that whatever may, you have done it before and you still can do it again. You come to develop a construction mindset that makes you more confident in the future knowing that this future depends on YOU and on your efforts.

And from that situation, absolutely everything that you dream of becomes possible. ©

Cornélia ANDRIAMASY RABEMANANJARA

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Inspire! Be the one you want to be remembered for.

Today, if people had to choose between kindness of heart and material success, the choice would be rapidly done. Because the world we live in today doesn't teach or motivates us to entertain the beauty of our souls.

Successful people are thus considered as a universal model of what to be and what to become.

There is nothing wrong in being successful, let it be clear! And in some ways, success is somewhat of a self achievement.

But what is being successful if your soul if rotten to the bone (souls don't have bones, I know).

Gandhi is one of the valuable men of humanity remembered for his core values and for the extreme beauty of his soul.

Steve Jobs, one of the universal models of success, had written in a letter (of which I neither can confirm the authenticity nor the fact that these were actually his words) the futile aspect of researching only material success.

“I reached the pinnacle of success in the business world. In others’ eyes, my life is an epitome of success.

However, aside from work, I have little joy. In the end, wealth is only a fact of life that I am accustomed to.At this moment, lying on the sick bed and recalling my whole life, I realize that all the recognition and wealth that I took so much pride in, have paled and become meaningless in the face of impending death.In the darkness, I look at the green lights from the life supporting machines and hear the humming mechanical sounds, I can feel the breath of god of death drawing closer…Now I know, when we have accumulated sufficient wealth to last our lifetime, we should pursue other matters that are unrelated to wealth…

Should be something that is more important:

Perhaps relationships, perhaps art, perhaps a dream from younger days.

Non-stop pursuing of wealth will only turn a person into a twisted being, just like me.”

Now, there seems to be a myth around the necessity of having an authoritative character for success. And maybe there is a part of truth in this myth. But the fact is that there are a lot of successful people that we do not know as much as the ones considered as success references, which yet remain humble, caring, loyal and loving.

Mandela, another inspiring personality of this world.

Now, as far as we are concerned, who is this person we want to be remembered for? A person that people admire for our material success or someone appreciated for our gentle heart and for beautiful core values? 

Would you rather be liked for what you have, or respected and admired for what you did and for who you are? Knowing that most of the time, being loved for who you are involves being appreciated for the things that you did, while being liked for what you have only takes the moment you have your possessions.

Taking Gandhi and Rockefeller for instance, whom of them do you think people will have more tenderness and real admiration for? 

Whose story will serve more as a life reference? Whose name and story was mentioned in the story books? 

And from which one of the both will the humanity inherit more benefit?

The courage of a single student has inspired a million others at Tiananmen place.  © Jeff Widener Associated Press

That is why today, I want to give a special tribute to all these beautiful souls of the world who have contributed to really bring a positive change. I want to pay a special herald to those people who have by their gentleness brought sun in the daily lives of the humanity, colored butterflies in the darkness, spark in the eyes of children, smiles on sad faces, hope in the darkest tunnels and inspiration for the lost souls, to those people who have inspired not only for the things they did but for the person they are, whatever their position, singers, artists, religious people, doctors, teachers, or simply parents or loving friends... 

By your countless love, patience, courage, quest of justice, care and concern, today I know better the kind of person I want to be remembered for. ©

Cornélia ANDRIAMASY RABEMANANJARA

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Be the unexpected Pearl!

The Lotus tatoo.

Clouds hiding sun will never mean

That light is gone when it’s unseen.

And oceans waved hard by the wind,

Do hide calm waters deep within.

Rose-tree cut to branches and leaves,

Does best blossomed red roses gives,

And dirty mudded marsh reveals

Pure Lotus which inside it lives.

Life hit me once, it hit me well,

It hit me in words I can’t tell

That very hit banging each cell,

Hit out the pearl out from my shell.

The cristalization process may be long and  arduous. But as long as the grain of sand that you once were transforms into the pearl you are meant to be, it is worth the pain.

Though trials times be delicate

Our darkened days can not relate

The temperature of our life’s climate

Good things do come to those who wait.

So of your bruised soul, save the roots,

Keep in your mind, as absolute:

Hardest deliveries make babies cute,

And late trees do give the best fruits.

Success in life is not a race,

Soon comes up our right time and place,

Since we’re all meant to it, meant to face

Project and dreams that we embrace. ©

Extract of    De vous à moi...' 2017., Coornélia ANDRIAMASY

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The message behind hard times.

As human being, we naturally feel uncomfortable and awkward with the hard moments of our life. And we naturally wish them to end the sooner the better. Yet, while focusing on them (this is what happens when we want things or people to go, we do focus on them) we just make them stay longer.

-         - OK, good to know then but how to make them disappear definitively?

In just analyzing the problem’s origin and context. At what stage of your life were you when the painful or difficult phenomenon occurred? At what precise moment did it land? How did you feel about it? And most of all, what ongoing process did it consciously stop?

-          - Ok fine. That is all interesting but you are not seriously advising to spend some time and energy on the origin of the trouble instead of focusing the energy on  the solutions, are you?

I am. Actually drafting strategies to make the problems definitively disappear is necessary. But it doesn’t stop the problem to occur later on again and again until the final message that you are meant to understand is finally understood.

Not only dwelling on a problem doesn't solve it but it makes it stay even longer.

-          - So, you mean that the problem may be solved with solutions… and yet not solved at all in the long run?  

I am saying: take it the other way around.

What if I told you that the troubles occurring in our lives are nothing but a signal of the other “us” inside?

Now if you have the chance to be parent, this normally is a process that you could understand.

Let me give a close example.

When a baby with limited communication skills, needs to sleep, to have diaper changed, to eat or to drink, he or she uses specific ways to make it understood. The first signal are always soft: an insistent look, a light “Muum” or a succession of brsadewidewidewt which are meant to inform that something is going wrong with His/Her Highness. The coming signals are noisier, and still ignoring them at these moments will only make them even more tonic.

The more you would ignore the signals the more the baby would get angry and fussy. Because the initial issue would have been amplified over time (be it hunger, thirst, soiled diaper, willing to sleep, etc.).

All the Natural Life Process almost look alike.

Now just transpose the same causes and effects to your personal life. Finding a solution to the current problem does not solve its real cause. The “problem” is a “manifestation” of something going wrong in your life (life choices, mindset, etc.). You may solve the apparent part of the iceberg and the deep bottom would still remain and keep on sending more and more amplified signal that are more and more prejudicial to your well being. 

-          - So what should one do to solve the problem both in its external aspect and in its deep bottom aspect?

Simply ask yourself why is this problem occurring to you, why now and what the hidden message is. The answer will not necessarily be immediate. But your brain will find a way to make you understand these things, situations, relations, life professional or personal direction, etc. that need change and/or redirection.

-          - How can you so sure?

Because I tried it before.

-          - And so?

And so when I began to draft some potential reasons to the issues, and when I confirmed it later on, it helped me go through it a little easier (this is knowingly acceptance).

-          - And that’s all?

No. When I understood the message, I progressively changed course in a new direction, actually the ones that inspired me since years. This helped me realize tremendous things I never thought myself able of. Because this was the destination the “problem” was actually leading me to.

So, no matter how odd it may sound or how hard it may look like, just remember that bad times often* are nothing but the negative interpretation of a signal that was initially meant to lead someone to his/her true destination. ©

*often because this is a global case, not a ruthless truth proven in all the cases.

 Cornélia ANDRIAMASY RABEMANANJARA

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Follow the Leader, he knows!

I am not talking about your boss, about your president or about your whosoever superior.

Your brain IS the Leader!

If I had to remember one sole thing from my psychotherapy courses, it would be this sentence. The day I heard it was the day I stuck to it.

Now, what I love about science is that is brings full evidence to almost everything (I said almost), and that in some ways, it tries to explain the origin, the process and the results of some natural phenomena. But I ‘d actually rather trust empiric evidences gotten from natural cases and from the Natural Life Process. Because Nature existed far before science and technology. 

In other words, brain existed far before computers, machines, infrastructures and whatsoever new technology and modern shapes and projects. All of this is furthermore, the result of several brains working together or separately.

Hence, in short: every single little modern (non natural) thing that you see, admire, taste, touch, listen to, etc. today, come from… brains!  

May the Super Power of your brain lead you to the highest goals (yes, it's a girl, and so?)

Do you trust the plane you travel in or the computer you are using? Trust your brain the same way to achieve your life goals!

Of course there are hundreds of manageable parameters and some other hundreds of unmanageable spiritual dimensions that are involved in the process before achieving success or reaching the best point of our lives. So I am not recommending to trust “only” your brain. But the fact is that most of the manageable parameters require a healthy entertained and trusted brain. For instance, when talking about Faith, Action, Confidence, Self Confidence or any other mindset required for success, most of them require a certain quantity of belief and willingness. To your opinion, where do the later find their origin? From our brain!

I might even go further insuring that the myth about uncontrollable love is totally wrong! One can decide to love, to stop loving, to accept being hurt or to decide to stop the pain inside, and not because he or she would have been forced to, but only because he or she would have decided  to. Trust me, this IS possible. Not easy but possible. And I am a living example of what I assess. Now, the point is not about being pretentious. The point is about realizing (I’d even rather say accepting) that our brain is much more powerful than anything else in the world.

Now the real question is: how powerful do you allow your brain to be?

Again, some unthinkable country’s revolutions, growth and development, some inescapable technological progress that today serve health care, productivity, education, pleasure, relationships, etc. have been made possible thanks the work of some several human’s brains.

Now, what is it in a life challenge or issue that it couldn’t solve?

Human brains have created cars (Jeep) that can climb extreme slopes, that can cross the poorest and roughest surfaces.

Now, why do we only value about 10% of it in our everyday lives?

If this human brain has proved over the last million years and for a billion times what it really is able of, how come is it that this same human brain is so poorly valuated in terms of life choices and achievement?

If you know how to feed and to entertain it, your brain will push you to the boundaries of what is possible (admitting there are any boundaries)

It is not a matter of brain capacity but a matter of readiness and willingness.

I overhear some mental comments explaining that yes, valuing one’s brain is necessary but it is rather a matter of intelligence, of capacity, of chance, of instruction, of God, of religion, …

False pretext! A lot of rich people didn’t get a high instruction. Lots of inventors were not necessarily “normal” or “clever” as far as the world’s standard is concerned. And lots of intelligent people I know are wasting their lives and energy not valuing this life gift of theirs.

Hence, this is merely a matter of willing or not willing to go ahead.

Look now, this is how the Natural Life Process works. The more you entertain something, the more it grows and develops. The less you use it, the less its use. And that is all.

It is the way you use your brain which makes you exceptionnal, not the contrary.

Our brain is like the rest of our body. The muscles that you are working on at the gym or at home develop. The muscles you don’t work on get atrophied. Staying in bed for weeks without moving obviously leads a person to lose a certain strength capacity.

So your entertaining your brain will simply make it more performant. This will give you the opportunity to understand and do things in an exceptionnal way and to be oneself exceptionnal.

And forget about what you have been taught concerning the progressive degeneration of the neurons. Some recent studies show that our neurons keep on developing and, anyway, with our without studies and scientific evidence, in the Natural Life Process there is no degeneration process that isn’t immediately replaced or compensated by another new regeneration one.

Hence, optimize your brain in all the possible (and legal) ways, reprogram it positively, reboot it, cleanse it, cuddle it, feed it, trust it,... whatever, as long as you just take a good care of it.

Keep in mind that an optimized brain can lead and lift you up to dizzying summits you do not even think of. ©

Cornélia ANDRIAMASY RABEMANANJARA

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Find your "woman" behind the success.

They say that success is a personal matter. And this is partly right. Actually, no one except yourself will face your life tests for you, or walk in your own shoes.

BUT. They also say that behind any big realization there always is a woman; a mother, a sister, a wife, a daughter, a friend. This is also partly right, at least as far as I am concerned. As a matter of fact, in my case the “woman” behind the project actually is a 3-in-1 woman who includes my sister, my best friend and another good friend of mine (Volatiana, Claude and Fred) to whom I owe almost everything.

Being alone helps to focus better.

Actually in these moments, there are less disruptions, less temptations, and when you stay alone with yourself long enough, there comes a moment when you begin to know yourself better. You thus know better what way suits you the most in terms of life choices. This may be an obvious process for some who really can consider themselves as lucky. But for a majority of people, knowing oneself, identifying one’s passion or being able to perfectly draw one’s own way in the right direction, is not this evident.

Furthermore, the self-knowing process is exactly the same one that we use when trying to know someone else (often in order to please him/her or just to get closer). Thus, sparing some precious time to be with yourself and getting to discuss more in depth with the inner “you”, is a life phase that you should give more consideration to, at least  if reaching this best part of your life is what you really are looking for.

I actually know a lot of people appreciating spending time with themselves instead of considering it as a pitiful moment of loneliness. They have transformed these moments in rich and intense productive moments that do serve them to reach their goals.

 

Friends are not necessarily pushing you forward because they stronger, but because they love and trust you.

Supportive true friends give you wings to go further.

Yet, if spending some quality time with one self without any external disruption is a capital parameter to reach one’s goal, being well surrounded is not less important.

To be honest, I can’t give you now anyone’s success story involving friends support because I actually don’t know any (not because there aren’t any but because I didn’t take time to search for it).

But (without having –yet- a success story to tell), I am the living proof that good friend’s supports can lift you up to higher grounds, to higher life stages, to higher soul feelings.

For instance, I know that I would never have written any book in my life if my best friend Claude Rakotobe hadn’t pushed me to step in this adventure, because I actually would not even imagine writing more than two consecutive sentences on a sheet of paper.

I know that I would never have progressed in the achievement of my projects if his same Claude hadn’t spared some of his precious time to teach me about all of these very strange things that they call new technologies, devices, applications, etc.

I know that I would never have won any competition, nor any victory at all in my life is Volatiana Raveloson hadn't been there trusting me without default, always pushing me every day with her suggestions, to the best that I can do.

I know that I wouldn’t probably haven’t crossed some desert with the same facility that I did then, if some good friends like Fred Hayward hadn’t been there to support me all the way through, lifting my mental up with all the possible means he had.

Sometimes an ear, a look, a word or a simple attention is what it takes to make the diffrence.

Sometimes love, a kind word, attention or just a ”hold on” is all what it takes.

I know that been surrounded by good and trusting friends is not the case of everybody. And yes, I must say I feel blessed for having a Claude, a Volatiana or a Fred by my side.

And this convinced even more of the fact that well-being and happiness are not about material things but about feelings and emotions. I know a lot of non fortunate (not to say poor) people feeling the happiest people in the world just because they have a family, a wife, a husband and some children. And I have seen depressive and non-happy fortunate people.

Therefore I would not measure the REAL success in terms of wealth, but rather in terms of wellbeing and self-accomplishment + a certain wealth created by this state of well-being.

The fact is that it actually doesn’t take this much to reach success. As a matter of fact,  this state of well-being, this developed self confidence and this feeling-unique-and-important-among-billion-other-people mindset, that a single “hello”, “you will make it”, “hold on, everything will be alright”, etc. or just a “Hey! I am there, do not worry” can generate, are precisely what the success feeds itself with.

So find yourself your “woman” behind the success and reach the highest grounds!

But always remember that there were people in your hard times (who were not necessarily in a better shape or condition than you were yourself) who gave you a lift to get you where you are, wherever this place is. ©

C.A.R.

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